Rehearsing for Life

As a Drama Therapist, I utilize a technique called Psychodrama. This can involve re-enacting moments from the past that may need some type of closure, or rehearsing a future conversation that's on the horizon. With both formats, we're taking visualization to the next level by allowing the body to experience something as if it were actually happening. Scientifically, Psychodrama can remap the brain to make us feel as though we had the conversation "in real life" – and provides the closure (or preparation) that we're missing.

Why do performers spend countless hours rehearsing? Because the more structure they create, the more chaos they can handle. For example, an actor who knows their lines backward and forward has more opportunities to play around with the character and performance.

To always expect the unexpected, be as prepared as possible.

Psychodrama provides a similar sort of mastery. If you practice a conversation, you can get clear on the intent and how you want to deliver a message. That way, you can go into the real conversation with confidence and authority – prepping you for whatever chaos may ensue.

Of course, not all of us have access to a weekly Psychodrama group. But we all have access to a mirror and some quiet time. I particularly like to utilize my quiet time in the car. With any type of challenging conversation ahead of me, I can practice what I want to say aloud. While doing so, I try to imagine the other person’s responses in a variety of different ways – and responding to each one accordingly.

Any quiet place will suffice, be it in the car, alone in the bathroom, or anywhere you can find some solitude.

When you’re rehearsing, pay attention to the following:

Does your tone match your intent? One of the reasons it is important to practice out loud is to hear HOW you sound. For example, while trying to sound firm, you can come off as annoyed. Inflection and delivery are just as important as the content: when your intent and tone don't match, it's challenging for the recipient to properly understand your message.

Is your content clear? When listening to yourself, do you feel as though you're rambling? Or are you quickly getting to the point? Sometimes, the best way to deliver a message is the most short and simple way. Remember: the listener is only catching about half of what you’re saying as it is.

When you practice content, tone, and intent, you have more leeway to discuss how you feel during the conversation. And you can do so without losing sight of the original message – or getting distracted by the recipient’s reactions. Rehearsing is just as beneficial for an upcoming presentation as it is for an forthcoming confrontation. Use it to your advantage!

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